Most everyone I know, seeks the feeling of emotional safety. Calm, comfortable, balanced feelings are positive and therefore considered evidence of mental health. Uncertainty, disorientation, self-doubt and rejection are negative and reflect an unbalanced mental state.
Naturally, if the above is true, we should all dedicate our lives towards maintaining positive feelings and driving away negative feelings at all costs.
I reject this premise. I reject the idea that chronic negative feeling indicates mental illness.
Mental illness is innocently believing that feeling is coming from something other than thought. Mental illness is born when feelings, even positive feelings, are attributed to objects or the past. Depression? Anxiety? Phobias? Schizophrenia? These episodes are never inherently problematic but rather symptomatic. These experiences become the scapegoat for the one illness that plagues us all from time to time. And that innocent illness defined, is losing sight of the fact that we are always, only ever living in the feeling of our thinking.
We hope that more and more people quit the draining endeavor and endless pursuit of seeking nice feelings to maintain emotional security. Instead, let us all pick up a new pursuit, that allows us to experience true security no matter what feeling we find ourselves in. Let us pursue psychological truth by asking just one question:
Where do YOU believe your feelings are coming from in this moment?